wives, are you respecting your man?


Yesterday we asked a question relating the importance of a husband loving his wife. Today, we ask the wives – ARE YOU RESPECTING YOUR HUSBAND?

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs suggests in his insightful and thorough book Love and Respect that the deepest need of a man is RESPECT. I agree with him, not that he needed me to. But I do.

The man needs respect even more than sex. In fact, I along with many others would suggest to you that sex in a marriage is more than a pleasurable indulgence to the husband. When a wife offers her vineyard for the enjoyment of her husband, he feels much more than the pleasure of climax. He senses deep in his core that his wife respects him enough to open herself up to him completely vulnerable and in full intimacy. He hears from her – YOU ARE MY MAN!!!

Wives out there, if you withhold sex from your man as a form of penance, you are doing more damage to him than you could ever understand. Husbands out there, do not use this thought as a you-better-give-me-sex card!!! You love your wife like Christ loves the church, and she will want to open herself up completely to you.

Read how seriously Paul took this precious gift and act of worship that husbands and wives experience together in 1st Corinthians 7:1-5.

1 Now, getting down to the questions you asked in your letter to me. First, Is it a good thing to have sexual relations? 2 Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. 3 The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. 4 Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. 5 Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it.

The Bottom Line.
Wives, if what we posted yesterday is true, and so many of you have declared that it is, then understand this fact – your husband is less likely to lead and more likely to become passive in the arenas of his life where he feels overwhelmingly disrespected. In your tone of voice, in how you look at him, in how you touch him, in how you support him, and in how you encourage him, does your husband know that HE IS THE MAN (at least to you)?

33 So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. [Ephesians 5:33, NLT]

Thoughts? Praying husbands and wives will experience love as deeply and intimately as God intended us to.

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