“Triangle. Square. Arrow.” Three shapes metaphorically shaping our lives. A poem I wrote this last weekend.

Triangle. Square. Arrow.

Father and Son and Spirit in unity and love together.
Love can’t be held in a box.
Love is compelled to give love.

Time. Space. Earth.
Garden. Man. Woman. God.
Love sends beloved to enjoys what’s been made.

Man. Woman. Choice.
Serpent. Tree of life. Tree of more. Woman decides.
Love mercifully sends away selfishness to die.

Covenant. Geography. People.
Multiply. Bless. Tree of more again. Divide.
Love graciously sends then restores.

Legalism. Licentiousness. Emmanuel.
Rome. Jews. Authority. Disturbance.
Love selflessly buries selfishness then rises.

Live for self. Live for God. Live WITH GOD.
Believing. Confessing. Depending. Restored.
Love, as Sent One, now sends beloved.

Listen. Learn. Love.
One Christ. One mission. One church. One another.
Love given together to neighbors and nations.

Groom. Bride. Wedding.
No more evil. No more tears. No more death. Hope no more.
Love welcomes beloved as intended, fully restored.

What is the mission of your marriage?

Time for our Spouse Beach Diet weigh in again this week. Have the daily suggestions been helpful? Hope so!

This coming Sunday, the series concludes with the question – “Are you eating your way together into the Kingdom of God (aka what is the mission if your marriage)?

Marriage is not just for our own good. Rather, God uses marriage both to teach us of His goodness and grace as well as to teach others of His goodness and grace as they see it embodied in our marital relationships. Gospel believed and lived and given. There is definitely a mission to marriage. Are you engaged in it together?

Alan Hirsch’s mentor told him once that he was convinced of the following:

Followers of Jesus should eat their way into the Kingdom of God

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I am convinced he was right, if couples will use the daily rhythms of meals to invite others along with them as they learn the ways of Jesus. And the mission of your marriage could be as simple as supper and hospitality. The conversations that Jesus had over meals and the oneness His hearers experienced with God are apparent. Imagine the conversations around your table becoming just like His, and imagine the oneness you would experience as a married couple watching others discover oneness with the God who came near to love them.

May you find the mission of your marriage and go with Jesus together to live sent.

One more extra resource to share this month _ “10 ways to joyfully keep your marriage vows.”

And, just like we shared in the last three weeks’ emails, from the minds and hearts of your pastoral team, here are “28 Days of Suggested Nutritional Choices for the Diet of Your Marriage” (aka The Spouse Beach Diet) – one a day for the wives to consider and live out (if they so choose) and one a day for the husbands to consider and live out (if they so choose). You can click on the links below to check them out.

Just to be clear, they are rated M for “marriage.”

Click here to check out what the husbands are encouraged to consider. Click here to check out what the wives are encouraged to consider.

Much love!
-jason
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PS _ The Northland DADDY-DAUGHTER DANCE is March 1st. If you are planning on going, reply and let me know. We will try to grab a meal together beforehand like last year. Click here to register.

PPS _ next month’s Sunday morning equipping focuses on the letter “N” of the SENT emphasis – “neighboring” – with a teaching series entitled “God became neighbor.” Looking forward to a special Easter season!!!

Consider praying this prayer of disorientation and reorientation for the New Year…

Lord Jesus, WITH WHOM are You leading me to live sent? Those few people whom I will care deeply for and who will care deeply for me as we live on mission together with You.

And TO WHOM are You leading me to live sent? Those few people in my daily rhythms as well as that one group across the globe whom I can love first as You have loved us, pray for as You have prayed over us, dine with as You came to dine with us, and learn “on earth as it is in heaven” with as You delivered it to us.

I surrender to be disoriented from my current routines. Help me to follow You as You redefine and reorient my daily rhythms and relationship. I will follow You.

Amen.

Here are 3 questions we may not be asking as we follow Jesus. But should we be asking them?

Quick post today.

Just wanted to suggest three questions we should at least consider asking as we follow Jesus.

1. Jesus, will you decrease me to love like You?
The evidence of our abiding in Jesus is not displayed in our personal goodness, but rather in His perfect love. Do you measure your spirituality with a mirror or within community? Read 1st John and ask which matters more – an increase in righteousness or an increase in love?

2. Jesus, will you increase wisdom to think and live like You?
This is a prayer Scripture declares will always be answered affirmatively. But may we not mistake our quest for knowing more with understanding better. May we not mistake our desire to have great understanding with our need to translate “not yet” into “right now.” And may we not mistake our yearning to explain heaven with His intention to announce “the Kingdom has come” through us. Wisdom has more to do with daily rhythms than devout righteousness.

3. Jesus, to whom are you sending me?
This is a prayer that if we are serious in praying will likely require REORIENTATION. We may have to exchange our going to church for going and being the church. We may have to surrender our scheduled church activities in order to follow Jesus in all of our activities. We may have to reboot our friendships to start up friendships with the lost rather than church-folks only. But He is sending His church.

Are you living sent?

Thoughts???

Is it “family OR mission,” “family AND mission,” or “family ON mission?” Challenging thoughts from @Mike_Breen

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God definitely seems to be using Mike Breen‘s experiences in Europe to encourage and influence our future experiences as the church here in America. Below is an excerpt from a post Mike wrote earlier this year regarding the above title. It is worth the read, and I would dig your comments for sure.

Praying we will grow in wisdom as individuals and families living on mission together focused on what really matters to Jesus.

How our kids translate and interpret what it even means to follow Jesus depends on it.

Much love.
-jason
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Sacrificing Mission on the Altar of Family?
by Mike Breen

Here’s the problem. For far too long, many of us felt we were pushed into having to make this false dichotomy: Is it family OR mission?

Rightly recognizing we shouldn’t sacrifice our families, we started to put some healthy boundaries in place, but also some unhealthy ones. So we started to compartmentalize. But I believe it’s part of the progression. So for many of us, this is now the question of our time: Is it family AND mission?

But when we learn to integrate our life and live well as a people participating in the mission of God each and every day and as we listen to the mission God is calling our family to, this is the next progression: Is it family ON mission?

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READ THE ENTIRE POST and the litany of comments by CLICKING HERE.

Is it a leader’s responsibility to get everyone in the same boat or equip the many boats on the river to move in the same direction? Read more…

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Unanimity is not unity.

But unfortunately lots of leaders buy the lie that they should get a grand vision and inspire great people to get on board of their personal dream and accomplish good stuff together.

Let’s all get in the same boat.

The energy is focused on a vision and on consensus. The product is typically one of three results, at least as I have seen it:

(1) People buy into the vision. They get on board. Everyone’s energy focuses on one vision. Some good stuff happens. But the effort is centralized and usually not reproducible without large amounts of resources and often leaves people inspired without the margin to even pay attention to the dream growing in their heart.

(2) People buy into the vision. They get on board. Everyone gets bogged down trying to come to consensus around that one vision. Dissension occurs. Divisiveness happens. The leader blames people for standing against a grand idea, describes it as some form of “attack” or “persecution” or “purging,” and goes with the group that sides with the leader to try it again.

(3) People buy into the vision. They get on board. Everyone focuses on one vision. Some good stuff happens. But the leader gets prideful. Things fall apart as the leader burns out or gets depressed or falls into self-destructive choices.

Maybe there is another option.

What if the leader led by serving? What if the leader believed in the respective dreams of people in their daily rhythms? What if the leader equipped people in their relationships and ideas rather than tried to rally everyone into personal relationship and the leader’s idea?

This would be the equivalent of trying to swim out to everyone in a boat on the river in an effort to encourage and equip people to sail in the same purposeful, intentional direction. There would be a need for shared leadership so that the leader doesn’t drown. One mission rather than one vision. One grand purpose rather than one great idea.

And no more “all in the same boat.”

The latter might actually produce multiplicative results that could be lived / implemented anywhere?

Every metaphor breaks down. Strengths of this suggestion? Weaknesses? Concern? Comments?

Praying we will grow as leaders who lead people rather than enlist people.

Much love.
-jason

Cultivating Daily: educating myself for St. Patrick’s Day. Do you know the basic history of Patrick? Read it here…

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So, other than the really well-done cartoon Veggie Tales did regarding St. Patrick, I don’t really know much about him. After reading some history on Patrick, sounds like Phil Vischer and the gang did a great job accurately sharing his story.

One major highlight is that he highlighted the unity of the Trinity in his preaching. Catholic.org, in their section on saints, had this to share regarding Patrick. Hopefully it will equip you to do more than wear green tomorrow :-)

Here’s hoping you don’t get pinched.
-jason

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St. Patrick of Ireland is one of the world’s most popular saints.

Apostle of Ireland, born at Kilpatrick, near Dumbarton, in Scotland, in the year 387; died at Saul, Downpatrick, Ireland, 17 March, 461.

Along with St. Nicholas and St. Valentine, the secular world shares our love of these saints. This is also a day when everyone’s Irish.

There are many legends and stories of St. Patrick, but this is his story.

Patrick was born around 385 in Scotland, probably Kilpatrick. His parents were Calpurnius and Conchessa, who were Romans living in Britian in charge of the colonies.

As a boy of fourteen or so, he was captured during a raiding party and taken to Ireland as a slave to herd and tend sheep. Ireland at this time was a land of Druids and pagans. He learned the language and practices of the people who held him.

During his captivity, he turned to God in prayer. He wrote

“The love of God and his fear grew in me more and more, as did the faith, and my soul was rosed, so that, in a single day, I have said as many as a hundred prayers and in the night, nearly the same.” “I prayed in the woods and on the mountain, even before dawn. I felt no hurt from the snow or ice or rain.”

Patrick’s captivity lasted until he was twenty, when he escaped after having a dream from God in which he was told to leave Ireland by going to the coast. There he found some sailors who took him back to Britian, where he reunited with his family.

He had another dream in which the people of Ireland were calling out to him “We beg you, holy youth, to come and walk among us once more.”

He began his studies for the priesthood. He was ordained by St. Germanus, the Bishop of Auxerre, whom he had studied under for years.

Later, Patrick was ordained a bishop, and was sent to take the Gospel to Ireland. He arrived in Ireland March 25, 433, at Slane. One legend says that he met a chieftain of one of the tribes, who tried to kill Patrick. Patrick converted Dichu (the chieftain) after he was unable to move his arm until he became friendly to Patrick.

Patrick began preaching the Gospel throughout Ireland, converting many. He and his disciples preached and converted thousands and began building churches all over the country. Kings, their families, and entire kingdoms converted to Christianity when hearing Patrick’s message.

Patrick by now had many disciples, among them Beningnus, Auxilius, Iserninus, and Fiaac, (all later canonized as well).

Patrick preached and converted all of Ireland for 40 years. He worked many miracles and wrote of his love for God in Confessions. After years of living in poverty, traveling and enduring much suffering he died March 17, 461.

He died at Saul, where he had built the first church.

Why a shamrock?
Patrick used the shamrock to explain the Trinity, and has been associated with him and the Irish since that time.

In His Footsteps
Patrick was a humble, pious, gentle man, whose love and total devotion to and trust in God should be a shining example to each of us. He feared nothing, not even death, so complete was his trust in God, and of the importance of his mission.

Cultivating Daily for Unity: yesterday, I posted a post that included thoughts on the important of unity to Jesus. See more of what I’m thinking here…

Yesterday, I posted a post that included a lot of language about unity around mission and how important this is to Jesus. So important that He prayed for it specifically in the Garden of Gethsemene:

18 As You sent Me into the world, I also have sent them into the world. 19 I sanctify Myself for them, so they also may be sanctified by the truth. 20 I pray not only for these, but also for those who believe in Me through their message. 21 May they all be one, as You, Father, are in Me and I am in You. May they also be one in Us, so the world may believe You sent Me. 22 I have given them the glory You have given Me. May they be one as We are one. 23 I am in them and You are in Me. May they be made completely one, so the world may know You have sent Me and have loved them as You have loved Me. (John 17:18-23, HCSB)

Well, I genuinely am not one to try to pimp a book I have written, but I thought it important to share with you that in case you want to read more of my thoughts about unity around mission and why this matters in the work of God among us, you can do so. I wrote beyond MY church, because I felt led to share a message that had big-time wrecked me and the local church expression I am grateful to pastor.

CLICK HERE to go to the book’s website. CLICK HERE to read an excerpt from one of the chapters. CLICK HERE to download chapter one for free.

Hopefully this will share more insight on why I am so burdened to see Southern Baptists along with all followers of Jesus come together around the mission of God so that the work of God will come alive among us.

Or like my friend @JonTyson says, to see “on earth as it is in heaven.”

May we follow Jesus, listen to Him, and cultivate whatever He leads us to cultivate so that “on earth as it is in heaven” may come in our cities.

Hopeful.
-jason

Cultivating Daily into Neighbors: loving your neighbor even in a not-so-neighborly context.

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The Leadership Journal recently featured an interview with John Dickson, author of Humilitas, historian, and co-director of the Centre for Public Christianity. CPX works to engage Australia’s mainstream media and general public with thoughtful content that explores the relevance of the Christian faith for the modern world.

Dickson shared insight that may be helpful for us in American culture. In particular, notice his response to this question:

LEADERSHIP JOURNAL:

What advice do you have for church leaders in America about how to engage the broader culture effectively?

DICKSON:

I think the very first thing is to do is adopt a stance of mission instead of admonition toward the world.

CLICK HERE to read all of the article.

Lord, please teach us how to simply love our neighbor again, in hopes that they, too, will know that they are loved by You in this way – You sent Your Son to die for them. May we live sent, as You were sent to us.

Enough admonition. Much love. :)
-jason

Cultivating Daily into Family: 5 proven suggestions from parents of 5 grown kids.

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I recently asked our friends Tom and Connie (@clalbers) to share some parental insight with me with permission to post it here on the blog for all of our benefit. I am so grateful that Connie is a mentor and friend to my wife, and my wife and I are so grateful for one of her daughters who is our chief babysitter (she rocks the house). This family is such a blessing to us. I pray that their wisdom shared here will encourage you as you cultivate daily into your family!

I asked Tom and Connie this question:

>> What are the five things you would encourage parents to cultivate into their kids in hopes that they live daily with Jesus and live a life on mission with Him regardless of their profession or location.

Here are their five suggestions:

1. Don’t get caught up in the do’s and don’ts. Christianity is not a religion. Cultivate a love relationship.

2. Cultivate a sense of family. Make sure there is an atmosphere of unconditional love. No matter what happens, family will always be there, and they will always love you. This is not based on what you do or don’t do. Spend as much time with the kids as possible while they are young, growing a close relationship.

3. Encourage them to spend consistent time in the Word. Don’t make it a legalistic “school” type activity. It’s NOT about reading a book. It is about getting to know the only true God that has revealed Himself to us in Jesus Christ (John 17:3). “Let the Word of Christ dwell in you richly.” (Col. 3:16). As we are filled with His Spirit, we will be what God wants us to be.

4. Our goal in life is to bring glory to God in all that we do. To cause others to seek the God we love. Get our children to understand that “It is not about us.” We need to be servants. We need to be ambassadors.

5. Realize that our life is not our own. We have been bought with a price. Live it with Jesus and for His sake, not our self interests. We are to be good stewards of the time that God has given us on this earth.

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Thanks Tom and Connie. Jen and I love you.
-jason

Cultivating Daily into the Marketplace: is work your security blanket, or does your identity come from elsewhere?

Is work your security blanket?

If your identity and value and attitude and hopefulness is based in whether you work hard and work productively and work a lot, then work might be your security blanket. If you only feel important when you are needed at work or called upon for extra hours or leaned upon to lead work projects, then it might be. If you find yourself in the midst of incredibly significant family time unable to peel your thoughts away from work or your email or that last voice mail that notified you of a few more to do’s at work, then it might be. If you actually control your own schedule and have the say as to when and how much you work, but  you find yourself using the excuse, “I can’t today cause I have so much I have to do for work,” then it probably does.

Why does this matter? I mean doesn’t Genesis even say that Adam will work hard and derive much of his purpose from his work and accomplishments? YES. It does. However, this was a result of eating the forbidden fruit, not a description of God’s intended purpose for us.

Work as a security blanket is an indication of a hindering insecurity, which if left unattended can stifle what I was intended to be.

And that matters, because it impacts both how you are cultivating with and into your family as well as how you are cultivating the love of the near Jesus at work.

Jesus taught that we have life when we believe that we are loved by God in this way – that He sent His one and only Son. When we live loved, secure in Him, our identity defined by Him, with Jesus as enough, we then can daily give love into others that they might see and believe that they are loved by God. It is not that we all of a sudden have no insecurities. It is a daily journey – denying self, taking up my cross daily. Over time, I learn more and more the depth of the love God has for us and am compelled to love more and more the way I have been loved.

When work is my security blanket, then I am hindered in living loved, in living secure in Christ. I am too busy attending to the work that makes me who I am to even be who I was intended to be.

This hinders how I live in love and on mission to and with my family. And it hinders what is witnessed of God’s near love at work. Instead of people seeing someone whose security is based in something besides the day to day at work, which is very intriguing and attractive, people witness someone gripped by career demands and advancement. This is not that different from them, and so their search for purpose continues.

This isn’t just about being a work-a-holic. This is about our intended life and mission as followers of Jesus. The very One in whom our intended security should rest.

What do you think?

Praying that we will live loved at work, cultivating daily that others may be loved and believe Love.

-jason

Cultivating Daily in the Marketplace: do you work for money or for mission? Consider this…

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We make our mortgage payment every other week. Groceries for five kids and one on the way costs money. Gas. Tolls. Insurance. Oh yeah, and generosity. Lots of avenues for money to go out. Which means that there must be an avenue where money comes in.

And so we work.

“All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.” [ Proverbs 14:23 ]

Other verses in Proverbs also make it clear that work is important, laziness is bad, and God gave us abilities and energies to use in the course of how He provides for us.

But that last statement is the key. He provides for us.

“Give us this day our daily bread…” [ Matthew 6:11 ]

So obviously, in answering the question WORK FOR MONEY OR FOR MISSION, it would be contradictory to say God will provide (affirming the Matthew 6 verse) but then to be lazy and not work hard in what your hands find to do (ignoring the Proverb). But is that the purpose for work? Just to make money?

I believe that most of us philosophically agree, if you follow Jesus, that you don’t just go to work to make money. But do we get caught in the snare of making more money rather than making more disciples?

So, let’s say we should make it a priority to work for mission’s sake. What would the mission then be?

What if the mission is to live believing that God loves us, which secures us to love others like He has loved us, in hopes that they will also believe that God loves them?

Could it be that simple?

Consider these Scriptures:

“For God loved the world in this way: He gave His One and Only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send His Son into the world that He might condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through Him. Anyone who believes in Him is not condemned, but anyone who does not believe is already condemned, because he has not believed in the name of the One and Only Son of God.” [ John 3:16-18 HCSB ]

“I give you a new command: Love one another. Just as I have loved you, you must also love one another. By this all people will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” [ John 13:34, 35 HCSB ]

Again he said, “Peace be with you. As the Father has sent me, so I am sending you.” [ John 20:21 NLT ]

May we work for mission, trust for money, and live sent to be a letter of His love into the lives of the people with whom we work. And not so that we can make a spiritual presentation to them. Rather, so that we can live a spiritual presence with them, that in our nearness, both in word and deed, they may believe that they are loved by the God who came near and considered them worth dying for.

Lord, please teach us how to live sent daily with You.
-jason